Chapter 2 – Happiness is a Choice You MakeSuppose you are not a happy person. That is a choice you are making. You have full control over your life and the decisions that you make. There are many factors which people measure happiness. Some people think money is happiness; however, they may be absolutely miserable with what they do daily to make their money. You might look at people who have absolutely everything, and you strive to be like them. These things may be wealth, possessions, status, or even the position you hold at work. These things don’t create happiness. Happiness is a choice. Many people have wealth and a high status who are completely miserable. They may be lonely, divorced, and more. Happiness comes from within. These people may be working jobs they hate but just have a knack for making money. Happiness is Subjective There are things in life that can make you happy that are subjective. They are subjective because happiness comes differently for everyone. You might find joy and happiness seeking thrills through rides like roller coasters and bungee jumping. This thrill may be more than torture for someone with a fear of heights which would never step foot on a roller coaster or ever be brave enough to jump from a bridge suspended by a bungee cord. Everyone seeks happiness in their own way. What makes you happy is a natural high that you deserve to seek. There is nothing wrong with the things that you find joy in. You may be told you are crazy, but that is because of subjectivity. Naturally Happy Some people are indeed naturally happy. This is proven through a genetic disposition. This doesn’t mean that you were born to be that miserable if you are not a naturally happy person. Your genetics influences your happiness, but it is not fixed as a determining factor. If you are not a naturally happy person, you can change the way you think and feel, so you are. The key is to change how your brain thinks and what you do. You can learn to do things daily to bring up your happiness level, which will help you learn to smile more and be a happier person. Sleep Sleep is a big factor if you want to be a happy person. Sleep is needed for the body to be able to function properly. When you don’t get enough sleep, you might be moody, have an inability to think clearly, and be very unhappy. You might get 8 hours of sleep, but you think that you get enough hours of sleep. You may be oversleeping or even be sleeping the wrong way. Some people don’t get a good night’s rest with a pillow, while others need a very fluffy pillow. Your mattress could play into a bad night of sleep also. Sleep is a big factor, and lack of sleep can also cause problems with your health. Ensuring total well-being requires a good night’s sleep. If you are not sleeping well and have determined that the lack of sleep plays into how miserable you are throughout the days, you need to fix this. You might need to change your daily schedule so you can get to bed earlier. You also might need to encourage other people in your household to help you a little bit more if you are working too hard. Sleep can be the entire reason you are miserable. If you cannot sleep and toss around staring at the alarm clock all night, this could mean many different things. Some people are very depressed, and it causes them not to be able to sleep well. To ensure happiness, you need to get a good night of sleep. Exercise Exercise is very good for the body, and it helps the brain put out endorphins responsible for making you happy. Exercise is important for total health. This doesn’t mean that you must be on a heavy exercise routine daily. However, you should try to sweat every day. You can get great exercise by just cleaning the house and doing normal household chores. This isn’t about losing weight. It is about creating happiness. Meditation Practicing meditation doesn’t mean you belong to a cult or do anything religiously wrong. Many people associate meditation with Buddhism and think it is wrong. They are missing out on something extremely important, which could be exactly what they need to balance out their days. Meditation is one of the most effective ways to change your well-being. Doctors have proven meditation to generate brain activity on the left side, which produces a positive emotion in the body.
Chapter 3 – Questions to Ask YourselfWhen you are looking for your true passion because you seek happiness in your life or a gap you need to fill, there are many questions you need to ask yourself. By carefully answering these questions will help you understand more about yourself and possibly what might be holding you back from being happy and pursuing your passions. Here are many questions you should ask yourself. You might want to get out a notepad to answer these questions or just make a mental note. Writing the answers down is usually better. What really inspires and engages you? This question may be a little difficult to answer, but you may find the answer after finishing the rest of the questions. However, you need to be very clear about where you get your inspiration from. What are the types of things you find engaging and exciting? If you couldn’t fail, what would you do? Many people don’t do things because they are afraid to fail or have failed in the past. If there is something that you would do for sure if you knew there isn’t a chance of failing, what would that be? If you were forced to start over again, what would you do? Many people find themselves in situations where they have fallen into a situation where they are not doing as they wish. They go to work because they have not had to. If you started over again, would you take advantage of the new beginning, or would you go back to where you are? What would you do? If money wasn’t an issue, what would you do? Many people have dreams they wish to pursue, but they never attempt to move forward with these dreams because they cannot afford to get started. Think of what you would love to do if you had the money to do it. This can be anything. What is your biggest dream? If you have a big dream, what is it? There must be something you absolutely want to do that you dream about. Think about this one thing and focus on it. What is the biggest barrier stopping you from following your dream? Name all of the things that have caused you not to follow your big dreams. These things could be people who do not support you, money, fears, and other things. There are many different types of barriers that can be overcome. You might not see opportunity or success with your dreams, or you may fear that people would make fun of you. You might not even be skilled and lack talent. These could be barriers causing you not to move forward. What passion are you afraid of owning or admitting? Many people have dreams and passions they are afraid to talk about out of fear of being made fun of by others. You might think your passion is silly to other people. What is this one thing? As a child, what did you really want to be? Did you dream of becoming a child, which didn’t turn out quite as expected? Do you still wonder what it would have been like if you did follow your dreams as a child? If you had the opportunity, would you follow this dream today? If you were going to die, in the near future, what would you regret not doing? Many people have regrets when they realize they will die real soon. It is often too late for many people to go back and change the things they missed out on. They would have lived their lives completely differently if they had the chance. If a doctor told you that you hadn’t any time left but a few weeks, then what would your regrets be? What would you want to do before your time was up? Now that you have answered these questions, you should have a good idea of some things that make you happy and your dreams. It would help if you had a clear idea of what you have always dreamed of doing. Just think about if you won the lottery and what you would do with the money. What would you do with yourself? Knowing these things is very important.
Chapter 4 – Peak Experiences and Existing TalentsYour capabilities are very important when considering taking your dreams and making something of them. You need to think about peak experiences and existing talents you have that you can use toward the benefit of making your dreams come true. This can also help you build the confidence you need to be successful. Your peak experiences include times in your life when you excelled. You don’t have to have won an award. These peak experiences include the best times of your life. What are some of the things you have done in your life that you really enjoyed you wish you could do again? Consider some of the accomplishments you have made. You might have built things in the past when you were younger. Existing talents you have today can be used to help you achieve your goals. Are you good at organizing or marketing? You might be good at something you don’t even realize you are good at. These things could be making announcements about events, making phone calls, baking, gardening, and more. You don’t have to have super talented. You may know something that you enjoy very much. Maybe you have an interest that you like to read about, and this is your hidden passion. Think about something you are very knowledgeable about because you choose to be, not because you must be at work. Some of the highest times in your life may be the passion you wish you had back in your life. You might have used to be a runner and always wanted to win the New York City Marathon, but now you are a smoker and have written that dream off years ago. That doesn’t mean you cannot get back into shape and go for your big dream. Everyone is good at something. If you don’t have a hobby like making candles, beaded jewelry, or working on cars on the weekends, it doesn’t mean you don’t have a skill. This just means that you haven’t quite figured out what your skill is yet. You need to know what it is that interests you the most. The majority of people are very good at what they do when they enjoy it.
Chapter 5 – Using Curiosity & CreativityOne very important thing is a curiosity because it is the base of passion. You might have understandings that are blocking you from realizing your true passion. Here are many ways you can use curiosity to help you determine your true passion for using it to be successful. Making Your Mind Active Curiosity helps create an active mind. When someone is curious, they always ask questions and seek the answers. It causes their mind to be active most of the time. When you are curious and working the mind, you make it stronger. Your brain is like a big muscle, making it stronger by working it. Open to New Ideas Curiosity also allows you to see how things can be at different angles. When you are set in one way, things are limited because your mind is unwilling to accept a different solution. It is much like your life. If you don’t see your life becoming any more successful than it already is, you won’t be. If you can open your eyes to new ideas about how things can be, you are more willing to try them. The great thing about curiosity is that when ideas come to your mind, they will also be recognized and not ignored. When you are not curious, you miss out on the important ideas because you haven’t prepared your mind to be open to them. This also means you must be open to suggestions. Many people offer input that you might not want to hear. This input could have been the one thing that was what you needed to do in your life. Be open to suggestions by asking more questions and seeking different answers. Open to New Possibilities When your mind is open to new suggestions, you will see the bigger picture in almost every situation. Your world will be open to new worlds and possibilities because you will be curious. Normally you wouldn’t see these things like you see today. It takes the most curious mind to have the capability to look beyond the normality of life and see things hidden underneath the surface. These are worlds and possibilities that you can make happen. You have total control of your curious mind. Excitement If you are bored with your life, you are most likely not curious at all. Curiosity builds excitement in your life because you will want to see things. There will always be new things that attract your attention and an abundance of toys and gadgets that you enjoy. When you are curious, you are adventurous, and it is so much fun to add adventure to your life. This doesn’t mean you need to go on an African safari. It means you need to look around you and see the things going on a little more than you normally do. Do a little research and find out why things tick. Be curious and open to new things rather than having the same boring routine every day. Developing Curiosity If you consider yourself curious, you are in a routine of the same thing every day and bored with the life you are not. You are boring. You can develop the curiosity to help you become a more exciting person and see the life you can have. Once you become curious and want to know what your life will be like when you take your passions and make them happen, you will be more likely to make them happen. Keeping an open mind is the best thing to develop your curiosity. You have to be an open-minded person. If you are set in your ways, this may be the most difficult task—work on seeing things from a different point of view. Think about different versions of things and how they could end up. Another thing you need to do when developing your curiosity is to never take things for granted. Many people accept things for how they are. They never dig deeper, and they lose their entire curiosity and excitement. Many things are a really big deal, and although it may seem simple to you, it is important. Your child may want to do something that seems so ridiculous. It is about the time spent, and you should never take these things for granted because they may not be available later. These also include wasting time in your life watching television when you could be working toward your passions. Constantly ask questions. As you are developing your curiosity, it is important to ask questions. Who cares what people think about you? You are working on yourself, and you need to be curious. This will allow you to get beneath the surface of things. Ask about how things work and why people are friends of each other. Find out as much as you can about everything. Not only are you working your brain, but you are also learning new things and developing an understanding. You are learning about why people do the things they do. However, you might do something one way people may choose to do it another. This is the opening of your mind you need to do. Never label something as boring. If you are asked to do something with someone else, and you think it sounds drab, you need to get up and tackle it as if it is much fun. Things are only boring that you make boring yourself. Labeling an activity or chore as boring completely closes the doors to something that might be your passion. In addition, you can think of ways to take that boring activity and make it fun. Look at learning as something fun. There are many things about your passion you might need to learn. You might have put off your passion because it will require you to take a few courses. It is very common for people to think they are too old to learn new things and don’t follow a passion. You are never too old to learn new things. The best thing you can do is continue learning by reading as much as possible and learning new things. It would help if you never put a passion off because of learning. You need to tackle the learning as a fun experience to help you achieve a goal in the long run. Being curious is learning. You are in a lifelong class and learning new things every single day. So if you have to take a class or read a book to learn something new, tackle it with a new attitude of excitement and fun. You will learn much more than you would if you thought the learning was a burden. Reading new things is another way to feed your curiosity and develop it. You might like to focus on just one thing, but you should be open to as many different topics as possible when reading. This can help you build your curiosity even further. If you find you like to focus on just one thing, you might have found your passion. Building Creativity Do you think you are not a creative person? You actually might think you are creative and not be at all. If you want to live out your passions and make them a reality, you need to be creative. There are many ways you will need to tackle barriers and make things happen creatively. The more creative you are, the more successful you will be in your life. Here are a few ways you can build creativity in your life. Make creativity a game in everything you do. When you come upon a circumstance, you should give yourself the rules. Think about the objectives and any obstacles or strategic constraints that might be a problem. The more creative you are with these answers, the better you are. When you are creative, you also have to set goals. Goals go with deadlines, and you need to set a deadline with activities. When you attach a deadline with tasks, it makes them more exciting. You also won’t procrastinate as much either. Self-expression is a very important aspect also. It would help if you found every opportunity to express yourself that you can see creatively in a creative fashion and every opportunity. When you look for opportunities to express yourself, you are creative in the process. Expressing yourself can be in the way you display dinner on the plate. You might choose to dress up the meal with cranberries and garnishes. You may change how you do a presentation at work and completely change the style from how your work does it. View every activity to express yourself and be creative. Allow more focus in your life. The best thing you can do for yourself is eliminating distractions and noise when focusing on an activity. When you focus on an activity hard, you will see opportunities and qualities about it. If you really cannot pay attention to something, it is boring. Again, find ways to make it exciting. When you are working on activities that seem like they are boring, then you should view them as smaller pieces of a bigger picture. You need to see the big picture of things and every aspect of an activity. Walk around your home. If you are having a hard time figuring out your true passion, it may be sitting right in front of you. You may have collections of items like figurines, magazines, hobbies you like to do on the weekends, and more. Take a look around your home and see if some of the decorations are a clue to what your true passion is. You might be surprised you have surrounded yourself with items and not even realized it.
- Intimate relationships
- Family & friends
- Money & Finances
- Health & Fitness
- Mental Health
- Love & Happiness
- Lifestyle (Hobbies, Habits, Personal Goals & Achievements, Fun)
- Abundance Thinking and Living
- Lifestyle Design
- Dating Profile
- Dating Night
- List Item Date (What is Dating? How to date well?)
- Date Selection
- Dating Relationship – Purposefully Dating – Reason for Dating – Dating with Goals